Does Sex Addiction Really Exist?

There is much confusion about sex addiction and whether it really exists, especially considering it is a proper biological function that usually is pleasurable. For men, it is much more than a mere biological function. Sex is a large part of life for men, they are taught, “big boys don’t cry, suck it up, be a man, don’t show weak feelings.” Sex is the only real way men are allowed to feel and express anything other than anger. Sex, we men are taught, is what quells the loneliness and fills the inner void. It is the tenderness we crave inside, the intimate vulnerability. To need all this is disallow for men. So get it up and get it on! Sex is also taught as the measure of the man. This can be true for women too, but it is usually not as overwhelming a measure.

Now, what are addictions? At their roots, all addictions are the distraction from feeling. Usually a distraction from something we could not or would not handle. Whether it is tobacco, drugs, alcohol, overeating, over-sexing, over-working, over-meditating, over-exercising, over-praying, over-anything. Additionally, addictions like over sexing or over eating have the added dimension of being something needed for human continuance in reasonable amounts, unlike say drug addiction, which would be a great if you stopped. So for example, if you can’t stop thinking about food, this is indicative of an addiction, but if at meal times you thought about food that would be normal. All these addictive behaviors we took on, because they served our purpose. That purpose is and was to avoid feeling disagreeable, unpleasant, and repressed emotions.

So, in my opinion, all addiction therapies must include regression work, which is necessary to identify these hidden disagreeable feelings. This is so we can understand what has driven us, make new decisions (reframe), and release our attachment to these feelings. Yes, we have become attached to our negative feelings. Trance work (hypnosis) is the best way to access them. These repressed feeling are stored in our “shadows,” or dark-side. Talking about the issues (cognitive based therapies) is of use after the access via trance to the root causes.

The error I see many therapeutic settings take is treating the addiction as the main or only focus of therapy, instead of a symptom of an underlying root cause. Certainly, modifying behavior to minimalize the addictive acting-out is beneficial, but will have high rates of recidivism if the underlying issues are not address simultaneously and vigorously. However, the later is not pleasant; it is asking the addict to take a healing trip into their inner hells that they didn’t want to see in the first place. Selling this prospect is difficult, albeit, a required one. And celebrities are the worst clients, as they are spoiled, “make it painless and pleasing,” they demand. “Oh, and can I have a tranquilizer so I can be comfortable.” This will all but deny access to the very place they need to go.

So the question, does sex addiction exist, has the answer, of course it does. We humans can make anything into an addiction. Some like pain, and can’t get enough of it. The pain takes them away, distracts them from what they perceive is the more painful inner pain. This is the nature of addiction. It is a learned behavior used to cover buried feelings. These buried feelings are the culprits behind the addictive behaviors and they must be addressed.

We’ve seen many male celebrities with this addiction to sex. Why, partly because of the above, and partly because women throw themselves at them playing out the role of sex toy. We don’t see men throwing themselves at celebrity women to be used sexually. Nor do these women seem to need it. We have taught women the role of sex object, which ties directly into the addiction many women have, attention. Give me attention at any cost and I will do and be what you want, even if only for a “quickie.” So men’s sex addiction is part of the gender dance with women’s attention addiction. If one gender stopped, so too would the other. But I don’t see that happening. In fact as the “sexual revolution” proclaimed, “if it feels good, do it!” And the dance goes on, and on…

Selling sex and using it to sell promotes and continues these unhealthy behaviors too. But Madison Avenue is not likely to give up that sales tool anytime soon. So it is up to us individually and collectively to address our issues and use of addiction to distract. Let’s turn all this into a sexual evolution. It will feel far better too.

When Adult Film Stars Want To Enlarge Their Penis Or Stop Ejaculating Fast, This Is What They Do

If you have ever seen adult film stars, you probably watched in complete amazement and jealousy with how huge the size of their penises are and how long they can last before ejaculating. You probably also was amazed and envious with how much confidence they have with these gorgeous female adult film stars. Did they have this confidence because they were acting? Or, could it be because they have a manhood that is quite impressive and they KNOW they are about to make her orgasm (for real… and not through fake acting)! I would say more than likely the latter.

Listen, if you want to get like most of these guys you see in these films and develop the amazing abilities they have (like shooting your load far, lasting long during sex, being able to do lots of sex positions due to having a larger endowment, having lots of confidence in the bedroom, and causing women to have MULTIPLE orgasms), then in this article you are going to find out what most of them do to get all of these amazing gifts.

Alright, the first thing to talk about is what most of these guys do not do…

Contrary to popular belief, most of them do not go in for surgery or use dangerous tools. The reason why is very simple. Surgery and dangerous tools cause pain, side-effects, impotence, and they have a long recovery time… with NO SEX. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that if those things happened to these actors, then they will obviously be out of a job! Their manhood must look attractive and be healthy, be at an amazing size, and the actor must have the ability to last long and ejaculate far.

What makes all that happen… without side-effects?

Well, in order to get all those awesome benefits I talked about above, it is imperative that what you do is 100% natural, safe, permanent, and does not cause side-effects or problems with your manhood later on. The most popular and most effective method there is for COMPLETELY changing your male anatomy around are natural penile exercises… and that is the method most adult film stars opt for.

This method is gentle but powerful, extremely effective but affordable, and the results you obtain last for life. Not to mention, this is the only method that actually improves the health of your manhood along with increasing its size and improving other aspects of your sex life as well.

Now, I’m sure you are probably wondering why this method works so well. Well, this is what exercising your manhood is all about…

It starts and ends with your hands. Within your hands you hold the perfect amount of tension the manhood needs to be stimulated to cause cell division with your penile shaft. This comes in the form of precise (and fun) penis exercises. The exercises range from pulling exercises to massaging exercises and more. They also range from beginner levels to advanced levels with the routines, and the more top of the line programs contain special programs for guys who may have a hard time getting growth due to genetics (which by the way is VERY effective if you follow it thoroughly).

Now, since the routines will naturally cause cell division, what will end up happening is that those cells will naturally regrow harder, stronger, and bigger. You also increase blood circulation and strengthen the PC muscle. This in turn causes your manhood to become up to 4 extra inches longer, much more thicker, a harder erection, and since you will also strengthen the muscle of your manhood, you will obtain the ability to last long in bed and have more powerful orgasms as well.

Adult ADHD – ADD – How to Cope!

Adult ADHD. When I told my friend, Andrew, that I had adult ADHD, he was quite surprised. He thought that I would be hyperactive, loud, with unlimited energy and no control over my impulses. Without sounding too patronizing, I told him that what he had in mind was child, which I wasn’t.

I then realized that many people did not know anything about adult ADHD because it is often mistaken for a disorder that only kids get. Although true to a certain extent, but most kids do not grow out of the disorder and it then tends to manifest itself no too far in the future. With years of dealing with this problem, I have realized that my symptoms have only gotten worse as I grew into adulthood. I suppose this is basically because of all the pressures of adult life. I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child.

Just like me, there are thousands of adults with this problem. Each day for us is a struggle where we have to control ourselves, keep our attention on the tasks at hand and keep a strict watch on our emotions. I have had troubled staying focused, being organized, managing my time and money, and remembering to do all the daily tasks. However, I have a very supportive family so it is much easier for me to deal with adult ADHD compared to all the other adults who do not have the necessary support.

I was lucky that I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was a child. The same cannot be said for so many adults who are out there. Trust me when I say that living with adult ADHD is total chaos; and living with undiagnosed adult AHDH can be a living hell. A person would be constantly stressed out about missing deadlines and forgetting appointments. In addition, the person would end up aggravating his friends and family who would think of them as an under-achiever. All this leads to self-blame.

Unfortunately, there is lack of information where adult ADHD is concerned. Most of the literature that I have found deals with children aged 2 to 12. And the saddest part is the most of these children will ultimately grow up to have adult ADHD. And most adults do not know where to go to get information on ADHD. Personally I think that adults suffering from adult ADHD do not want to be treated for this disorder because of conflicting reports that are available. In addition, there is a stigma attached when an adult seeks help and treatment. This makes adult ADHD sufferers to brush their problem under the carpet and pretend that it does not exist. I think if I had taken this route, I would not be leading such a fulfilling life.

I am not ashamed at my condition, and I try to educate and help other adults with attention deficit disorder. However, in order to combat this disorder, the adult himself has to take the first step in getting the disorder treated. For me the first step was accepting that I had a problem and then the treatment for adult ADHD became a lot easier.

Adult Business Woes: The Problems of Setting up an Adult Content Site

As with any other business, the adult industry is not without its problems. Beginnings are always tough for any new endeavor. If you plan on starting your own adult site, you may want to consider the following problems that new adult merchants encounter.

1.The ever-tightening law belt against adult-related content – Law enforcement agencies have knuckled down on protecting younger Internet users from exposure to content deemed immoral. Some laws have also been laid down for what’s good for consumption of the general public and what’s not. For instance, the Child Online Protection Act of 1998 makes it illegal for adult site owners to post child pornography, at least in the United States. While the existing laws may not necessarily be able to cover your particular brand of adult content, it cannot be denied that it has had a certain ripple effect throughout the industry. One way to deal with this hindrance to success is simply to know what’s legal and what’s not. Do not risk limiting your goods and services to a genre that may be banned in countries that are major target markets.

2.Hosting limitations – Most web hosts have a contingency against adult-related sites, mostly because they don’t want adult material on their servers. Two other things that go against adult website operators in this context is their demand for high bandwidth and disk space to cover the site’s high traffic, high volume streaming and media-rich content. If you are looking for a host, make sure to get one that will be able to cover both requirements. While some mainstream hosts are willing to work with adult site owners, they may not understand the business as in depth as an industry-specific host could.

3.Difficulty in acquiring an adult merchant account – Perhaps the toughest problem to overcome, acquiring a merchant account can be a time-consuming and difficult process for the adult merchant. First among the things to contend with would be the killer rates. As adult businesses are considered high risk account, they are often subjected to sky-high fees. The best solution to this problem would be to find a payment processor catering specifically to the adult industry. One example would be AdultMerchantPay. This particular online payment processor offers low-cost accounts with no upfront fees. An adult merchant account service provider would also understand the need of the adult merchant for optimum security and should be able to provide this with an advance technology payment gateway.

4.Lack of compelling content available- Webmasters of adult sites are always looking for something fresh and something new. While many sites offer good content, what you should be looking for in a supplier is: 1) variety; 2) original content; and 3) the legal stuff. As previously mentioned, not all content is deemed legal. So aside from looking for the good stuff, make sure you are dealing with the legal ones as well.

5.Market satiated with free products and services – To say that the competition in the adult world is tight is an understatement. There are hundreds of thousands, if not millions, of adult content websites out there. Why should the average consumer pay for your services and goods when a glut of free online adult entertainment content can easily be accessed online? The answer to this problem may be less complex than you think. Offer a service that is different from what everyone else out there has. Focusing on your own niche is the best way to get your audience to be loyal subscribers.

One thing to remember when starting an adult site: With the right mix of marketing savvy, great content and old-fashioned hard work, your adult website can, and most likely will, succeed. While other entertainment businesses may suffer from an economic roller coaster, the adult industry will feel nary a sting from the ups and downs of a country’s financial state. The reason is obvious, access to online adult content is easier to acquire than any other entertainment venue (say movies, plays or fine dining). Adult sites are only a click away and subscriptions to a site will last longer than what a consumer gets when paying for dinner and a movie.

Aside from having accessibility on its side, the probability of its success is also driven by the consistently high demand for adult-related material. Thousands of subscribers keep the industry afloat by continuing to pay big bucks on a recurring basis. So make sure you have original, eye-popping content that is within the legal boundaries of your target market. Get a host that can cater to your specific needs and an adult merchant account provider that will ensure you get paid for all your troubles.

Adults With a New Diagnosis of ADHD

Many adults diagnosed with ADHD will not have had a formal diagnosis of ADHD as children. What this means from a practical standpoint is that they will have to learn how to manage their symptoms without having had any previous training in ADHD symptom management.

Newly diagnosed adults with ADHD face life challenges that are very different form the challenges faced by their younger ADHD cohorts. ADHD Adults, who may have previously depended on parents for support performing their activities of daily living, must learn, on their own, how to best organize their day-to-day tasks. These adults are often learning to negotiate other challenges as well such as how to navigate relationships, how to succeed with the demands of higher education, and how to succeed in their careers.

This is a tall order for people whose ADHD symptoms have gone unrecognized or untreated. For some adults with ADHD the ADHD symptoms have been present for a long time but the symptoms did not become a major impairment because of the support of parents or other family members.

These adults with ADHD will need to learn new life skills in order to manage their symptoms. Most ADHD adults will also likely need medical intervention. Psychological coaching, medication, cognitive training and EEG biofeedback have all proved useful in the management of adults with ADHD.

So where do you start if you are an adult newly diagnosed with ADHD? Your first stop should probably be the container store. No kidding!! Organizing your personal space will go a long way to moving forward on more lofty goals. Enlist the help of a relative or friend to help get you started but be careful to not allow your relatives or friends take over the job of ‘organizing’ you. You must learn to carry out these organizational tasks on your own.

A common problem that I have seen in adults with ADHD occurs when the ADHD adult has a partner, spouse, parent, or friend who enables the ADHD adult to continue to be disorganized and unproductive. The partner or friend continuously ‘helps’ the adult with ADHD by continually performing for the ADHD adult the household and life tasks that the ADHD adult should be doing for himself or herself.

Inevitably the partner ends up resenting the one sided arrangement and the relationship ends up in ruin. If you find that you have a pattern of surrounding yourself with people who do things for you, it may be necessary for you to get professional help from a counselor and coach in order to get you on your way to learning how to navigate your life tasks on your own.

Finding the right job is important for all adults but for adults with ADHD some jobs are a better match than others. In general jobs that require repetitive tasks will be problematic for adults with ADHD. Jobs that require that you sit still for long periods are also a poor choice. Jobs such as firefighting, police work, paramedic work, waitressing, ER physician, Tour Guide, or teacher are probably better jobs than jobs in computer programming, bookkeeping, or accounting.

Finding the right spouse or partner is as important in life as finding the right job. The best partners for adults with ADHD are patient and can tolerate a bit of disorganization but do not enable to adult to stay perpetually disorganized. Good partners encourage, motivate, and help Adults with ADHD to complete their tasks and provide the necessary love and support to empower the ADHD adult to succeed.

The most important goal for a newly diagnosed adult with ADHD involves finding the medical and personal support that will facilitate their:

Learning to organize your life
Picking the right life partner of spouse, and
Choosing the correct career.

Once the appropriate support is in place and these three areas are addressed, the life of Adults newly diagnosed with ADHD will be much more manageable.

Asians – The Asian Woman

On this planet are billions of people yet the most intriguing are the Asians… the Asian females to get more accurate! Their looks is at least for me personally too much to handle; their long, dark locks, dark eyes, tiny body… they’ve got components that really help them get and stay forever inside the mind of each and every guy as well as of countless girls coming from around the world. For those who haven’t had the joy of meeting such a woman head to head, definitely you saw hundreds on TV and also on the net.

Across the world are dozens of extremely popular Asian girls which stand for the erotic dream of countless men and women. The movies in which they star are generally rich in action… however that form of action not too many folks can think about. First of all, the physical look of Asian ladies is overwhelming – I shortly explained it above too however I need to add more about their body. I never saw a girl having such a dark-colored and also lengthy hair, tight body, incomprehensible eyes, kissable lips, fluffy and darkish skin tone – I’m an American lady that can’t disregard the sex attractiveness Asians have got.

Their little, tight physique is undoubtedly in the minds of numerous guys from each and every corner of the globe, this being the key reason why free porn movies in which these people star, hold the very first spots of the tastes of the people which access the hosting websites. We are all aware that the free porn industry is these days at it’s greatest stage and it could grow a whole lot larger – more than we could ever imagine! Asians that act in free porn videos are viewed like globally superstars and additionally role-models for many people. There’s no doubt that the main reason why many men and women check out these movies is because they are really curious to see how Asians look undressed, how they have intercourse, how big their own sex attraction is. The truth is that I viewed some free porn videos and how they acted was amazing… and I’m not making any reference to the love-making act.

The one thing which blew me off was the way they were looking naked, how they were shifting slowly and gradually as well as gentle within the room, just how their black eyes were shutting down every time they were fired up… it might seem a bit unusual, but the feelings which i got only from viewing free porn films in which Asians featured in were fantastic and as much as I would like to, I can’t come across any terms to describe it.

The “Sex Sells” Syndrome in American Business!

Male-created religious doctrines designed to control the sexual behavior of females have had results the founders probably could not have imagined in their own time-or if they did recognize them they chose to ignore them for a variety of reasons.

One of the most disastrous of the measures imposed upon both men and women but especially women was limiting sexual behavior to the point that most individuals spent much of their lives in a state of sexual frustration caused by a build-up of sexual energy that could not be expended.

Until contemporary times even masturbation, especially by males, was regarded as a major sin against God and was punished by a variety of means, including things that were demeaning and often cruel. [One Bible author says it is better for a male to leave his seed in the belly of a whore than to masturbate!]

The results of this misunderstanding and misuse of human sexuality included both emotional and physical ailments that still today continue plague much of mankind…and historically have also resulted in thriving prostitution industries in most countries. [It is just now finally being recognized by a few "experts" that unused sexual energy in males is responsible for much of the violence in societies.]

When education and other forms of enlightenment began to loosen some of the religious restraints on sexual attitudes and behavior in the United States, businessmen were quick to pick up on and exploit the area of human sexuality that was the most abused, most constrained-and that, of course, was female sexuality.

Advertisements began to feature attractive women in seductive poses and various states of undress. By the 1950s most marketing programs in the country were based on the appeal of female sexuality. And in the following decades female sexuality-related ads began to appear in Japan and other Asian countries.

Well before the end of the 20th century the level of sexuality portrayed in American advertisements of all kinds and in every medium had reached the level of soft pornography. By the beginning of the 21st century many marketing programs had reached the level of semi-hard porn to attract attention to products…and hard-core porn had become a staple of movies and television shows.

Another fallout from the misunderstanding and misuse of human sexuality is the declining custom of marriage and the increase in children born out of wedlock…both of which have a powerful, negative effect on the stability of societies and the quality of life.

This sexual revolution-again caused by the mostly well-intentioned attempts of religious doctrines to limit sexual behavior and channel it into narrow confines-is still in its early stages. Where and how far it will go remains to be seen.